Day of Status Symbols and Expectations
So today is the day of love. I don't know the history of today about St. Valentine and all so I'm not going to pretend. But I am pretty sure that however it started, it was not meant to be what it is today.
Theoretically "V-Day" is supposed to be an extra special day that you show your loved one how much you really care for them. I have no problem with that. What I do have a problem with is what society has turned it into.
A lot of women EXPECT flowers, chocolates, and gifts on this day of love. It would mean so much more to me if my hubby bought me flowers or gifts on some random day of the year. That way I would know that he thinks about me everyday and bought me things because he wanted to. Not because he was obligated to. It has become a holiday that people prove their love or feelings by buying the biggest, flashiest, most expensive thing possible. These turn out to be status symbols not symbols of love.
Last Valentine's Day, my hubby (who was then just my boyfriend) and I made plans to go to dinner. He was supposed to drop off some keys at the high school that he works at, so we planned our night around what time teacher was supposed to meet us up there. The teacher called to say he was going to be later, and later, and later. Bear was so upset that our night was going to be ruined. I came up with an idea. I got him in the car, went to Taco Bell, and then headed over to wait in the school parking lot. When we got there, I pulled out some candles and we had a candle-lit dinner on the trunk of my car. It was the best Valentine's Day that either one of us has ever had.
I just wish that more people could see that it should be more about spending time with the person you care about, and less about the material things that have become expected. The cards, the chocolates, the gifts and the dinners don't mean anything if they are given out of obligation.
*I understand that some people give material objects to show love and because they want to. It is only my opinion that it seems to be more out of expectation than want on Valentine's Day*