Underneath a Panther's Black Fur
A Newlyweds' Tale
Published on February 10, 2005 By Pantherchic In Blogging
I am not totally sure when, but at some point my husband aquired the nickname "hubby bear". This is our story.

Bear and I met about four years ago at a friends birthday party. We spent the entire summer hangin' out with friends. Not as a couple, but as a couple of friends. Then, he went back to work and I went back to school to my senior year. We went our seperate ways. The following summer we started hanging out again. We dated each other, but it was nothing too serious. After that summer, again we went our seperate ways. School and work. The next summer, we officially became a couple. We both worked. I wasn't going to school and he had two jobs. I moved in with him. Not totally on purpose, it just happened. I was spending a lot of time at his apartment just hanging out. It would get late, I would spend the night. Then another, and another. Before either of us knew what happened, I had closet space and an apartment key. We moved out of that apartment and away from the other two room-mates. Into a nice two bedroom apartment. We had eachother, and his dog (a black lab mix) named Aela. A couple of months later my stinky min-pin Blitzkrieg joined our home.

Last year in January, Bear and I broke up. He wasnt there for me emotionally the way I needed him to be. We decided it would be good and that it would work out okay. Later that week, Bear told me that he loved me and didn't want to be without me. We talked it over and decided that we should get back together. And that the big "M" word was the next on the progression of our relationship. I know, I know it doesn't sound that romantic. But I had fallen for him 2 years before, so this sounded like a great idea to me. I guess that proves the "if you love it let it go" saying. It has to work because there isn't a "if it doesnt love you let it go" saying.

Anywho~ We are married now. It has been almost five months already. I'm happy, he's happy. We've had some bumps, but who hasn't. I'm not expecting things to be 100% perfect, but things are good. As soon as I get used to sharing a bank account things will go a lot smoother. People ask if I'm too young... I don't think so. I tell them I'm Mormon, and then they ask why I wasn't married sooner. *SIGH* They ask if we rushed into it... if they only knew about the last FOUR years.

Well, here's to being young and in love, and too an entire life ahead of us. Just me and my bear.

Comments
on Feb 10, 2005
HW played this song for me by Sara Evens and I loved the lyrics.....
Remember, Life will never be perfect....and that's okay.

If you don't take me to Paris
On a lover's getaway
It's all right, it's all right
If I'd rather wear your t-shirt
Than a sexy negligee
It's all right, it's all right
Every dinner doesn't have to be candlelit
It's kinda nice to know that it doesn't have to be

(chorus)Perfect
Baby every little piece
Of the puzzle doesn't always fit
Perfectly
Love can be rough around the edges
tattered at the seams
But honey if it's good enough for you
It's good enough for me

If your mother doesn't like
The way I treat her baby boy
It's all right, it's all right
If in every wedding picture
My daddy looks annoyed
It's all right, it's all right
Don't you know that all the fairy tales tell a lie
Real love and real life doesn't have to be

(Chorus)

You don't mind if I show up late for everything
And when you lose your cool it's kinda cute to me
Ain't it nice to know that we don't have to be

(Chorus)

on Feb 10, 2005
i was 21 when i got married, too. (remember, you were a very cute bridesmaid!) and i think life was even younger. i'm all for getting married young, it just means that much longer to be with my boy. besides, if you wait too long, then i think there is the danger of getting too set in your ways and not being flexible enough to work things out in a marriage. just my opinion, though.
also, that is a really nice song, life. i agree. perfect would be dull, don't you think?
on Feb 11, 2005
oh and BTW...HA I got you both beat. I was married right after my 19th birthday!

And I only dated HW for 2 1/2 months before we got married...so dont' let anyone tell you you are too young.....
on Feb 11, 2005
I remember Pantherchic caught the bouquet at the Mamester's wedding. You were only, what, 14 or 15 at the time, and I saw your dad take you aside and give you a stern talking-to. Also, As I recall, your mom was only 19 when she married your dad. The age thing is all relative. When the time is right, the time is right.
on Feb 11, 2005
my mom had been 20 for a couple weeks! I was still 20 (my birthday was 3 1/2 months later). I loved catching that bouquet at that wedding because all the other girls didn't know me and they hated the fact that some out of state girl caught it. lol
on Feb 11, 2005
Yeah, and the smug look on your face was priceless
on Feb 11, 2005
you must have only been 13! what a difference 8 years can make, eh?